Welcome back. Chapter 3 is about looking in the mirror (which can be tough especially first thing in the morning) and seeing value in yourself. I’ve learned not to look until I’ve at least brushed my hair.
Seriously though, when you look in the mirror do YOU really see you or is it a reflection of how others see you? Do you see your value as a unique person with much to offer or do you wonder sometimes how you’ll make it through another day? Tired? Low on energy even though the day is just beginning? It has to do with self-image and how you deal with the negative things in life.
One of the main reasons people aren’t successful is low self esteem and Chapter 3 of 15 Laws of Growth by John Maxwell shares 10 steps to help build self image:
- Guard your self-talk. Do you encourage or criticize yourself?
- STOP comparing yourself to others.
- Move beyond your limiting beliefs. A great book to read is Success Principles by Jack Canfield. He shares how to identify and change limiting beliefs.
- Add value to others. This can be as simple as a smile, holding a door open for someone or volunteering your time. There are many occasions to make someone else feel good which in turn will make you feel good.
- Do the right thing … even if it’s hard. Be true to yourself and your values. This really helps build character.
- Practice a small discipline daily in a specific area of your life.
- CELEBRATE small victories – samples of self talk:
Wow, It’s about time
Didn’t do as much as I should have
That won’t make a difference
It’s hopeless, I’ll never succeed
It’s good that I did that!
I did the right thing, good for me!
Every little bit helps!
I’m that much closer to success!
- Embrace a positive vision for your life based on your values.
- Practice the one-word strategy. This is definitely a terrific exercise. Some folks with an already great self image can do it in a short amount of time. Personally, I’m still working on mine. The idea is to come up with a list of 100 POSITIVE words that describe you (personal qualities). Read it everyday to remind yourself of your value.
- Take responsibility for your life. If you don’t have a purpose or plan for your life, it will become part of someone else’s.
No matter where or what you’ve been through, you can learn and grow.
You need to believe in you.
You do have value, you matter, your life can change and
you can make a difference!
Note: These posts are basically my own notes and do not cover everything in each chapter. 15 Laws of Growth by John Maxwell is turning into a goldmine for me and it may be the same for you or someone you know.
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