Life is like a see-saw … full of ups and downs. Have you heard the statement, “Some days you’re the pigeon, other days you’re the statue?” I especially like the rain when I’m the statue. 🙂
The most successful people in life point to the hard times in their lives as key points in their journey of development. It’s in learning how to play a poor hand well.
The timing of this chapter is incredible. Reflecting on how this year has played out will definitely help to develop strategies to maximize growth next year. How did it go? Keeping track on a calendar is a tremendous help. Use a notepad and jot down notes on what went well and what didn’t. How did the activity of this year keep us on track in meeting our goals? Did the people we met with help us grow? What did we learn? Were we able to impact the lives of others? What should we continue doing? What could be made better? What do we need to learn in order to improve?
Growth thrives in conducive surroundings. We take the first step when we refuse to be a captive in the environment we find ourselves in. Sometimes there comes a time when we need to change the environment in order to grow and this can be painful. If we want to grow to reach our full potential, we must be in the right environment which usually requires us to make changes in our life.
For example, if someone is always at the head of class – they’re in the wrong place. The best place to learn and grow is where others are ahead of us. Change depends on our choices and it’s impossible to grow without changing. We need to know the difference between a problem/challenge that can be changed and a fact that cannot. It reminds me of the Serenity Prayer…
Things we can’t change are where and when we were born, to whom, your DNA … BUT, we can change our attitude about them.When our attitude changes, many growth opportunities appear. Success or failure have very little to do with circumstances. Instead they are connected to the choices we make in life.
In order to put ourselves in a better place/environment for growth:
The test of greatness is consistency – it’s the key to growth. “Motivation gets you going — Discipline keeps you growing.” From John Maxwell’s 15 Laws of Growth, my review covers the four questions of What, How, Why and When of personal improvement.
Do you know WHAT you need to improve? By expanding yourself, you expand your potential.
Do you know HOW you are supposed to improve? What type of motivation do YOU need?
- Start with small reachable goals and practice them … daily.
This chapter on Reflection is amazing. I realize that I haven’t taken the time to do much of it but now I understand why doing so is important.
In order to develop personal or self-awareness ask yourself questions. These exercises are best completed by writing down both the question and answer and then going back and reflecting.
Why is reflection so important? How does it become such a powerful tool in learning who you are and living a life of purpose? How do you feel or have you ever thought about that little line between the birth and death years? I’d like my “Dash” to be long and squiggly.
- Pausing – taking the time for reflection turns experience into insight. When you think about an experience, do you wonder why it happened? What ‘things’ came together to make it turn out like it did? Do you want it to happen or not happen again?
Welcome back. Chapter 3 is about looking in the mirror (which can be tough especially first thing in the morning) and seeing value in yourself. I’ve learned not to look until I’ve at least brushed my hair. 🙂
Seriously though, when you look in the mirror do YOU really see you or is it a reflection of how others see you? Do you see your value as a unique person with much to offer or do you wonder sometimes how you’ll make it through another day? Tired? Low on energy even though the day is just beginning? It has to do with self-image and how you deal with the negative things in life.
One of the main reasons people aren’t successful is low self esteem and Chapter 3 of 15 Laws of Growth by John Maxwell shares 10 steps to help build self image:
- Guard your self-talk. Do you encourage or criticize yourself?
- STOP comparing yourself to others.
- Move beyond your limiting beliefs. A great book to read is Success Principles by Jack Canfield. He shares how to identify and change limiting beliefs.
As mentioned in my last post, I’m continuing with some self growth and reviewing a bit of Chapter 2 of 15 Laws of Growth by John Maxwell. This one is about being aware and finding your passion. I don’t mean the incredibly special person in your life though some of the following questions may come in handy if you are looking for one. 🙂
“Know yourself to grow yourself”
There are three types of people. Which are you?
- People who don’t know what they’d like to do – drifters, dabblers
- People who know what they’d like to do, but don’t – too busy, fear, not willing to pay the price
- People who know what they’d like to do and do it – fulfilled
These 10 questions will help you become aware – but only if you answer them honestly: