Looking at “America, tattered and torn” on a regular basis can have a major impact on focus and emotional health. Maybe that’s something you already figured out? I personally never had it hit me ‘front and center’ before.
This flag for instance . . . The image is not as clear as I would like. You can see it is definitely ripped and a good visual for the shape America is in. I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling so much stress or why my creativity was down. It’s because I saw this every time I looked out of my office window.
About three years ago I tripped and fell – not once – but twice within a couple of months. Both times my arms and shoulders took the impact. Like my dad (rest his soul), I figured I could deal with it. Fast forward to a couple of months ago and the pain waking me up … I finally gave in and went to a doctor.
So far I’ve had an MRI and been referred to an orthopedic surgeon who I think I love because even though there may be a slight tear – he doesn’t want to do surgery. (The thought of surgery is what kept me from going to the doctor in the first place.)
I don’t know if fear (of something) has impacted your life to the extent it has mine on several different levels. The fear of potential surgery has led me to sleepless nights and not being able to exercise properly. My posture – or lack thereof – is contributing to the inflammation; my stress level is higher than it needs to be and my weight – well, let’s say it’s higher than when I was pregnant!
Physical Therapy – ouch! But it’s a good pain because it means improvement. I cannot do any high-impact training and I desperately need to get back in shape. The numbers on both the scale and the tape measure have got to be smaller or I’ll also be looking at other issues like diabetes and heart problems.
I have found my inspiration … and exercise.
Arthur’s story is proof that we cannot place limits on what we are capable of doing because we often do not know our own potential. View the 9:21 mins. longer version – it’s even more powerful.
Please comment below if you’ve found this story helpful and share Arthur’s story with others who may have given up on themselves.
I had the following 12 Rules You Can Live By up in a frame while my kids were growing up and have them up again for the grandkids. They seemed to help lessen my stress levels (way back when). Maybe they’ll help you:
If you open it – close it;
If you turn it on – turn it off;
If you unlock it – lock it;
If you move it – put it back;
If it belongs to someone else and you want it – get permission;
If you borrow it – return it;
If you don’t know how to operate it – leave it alone;
If you use it – take care of it;
If you break it – repair it;
If you can’t fix it – call someone who can;
If you mess it up – clean it up;
If it will brighten someone’s day – say or do it.
As a Mom and Grandmom, I am continuously looking for ways to lessen the stress levels and have realized that structure and routine are very important to children (of any age – my own included). Looking for the positive side in life’s happenings also makes for healthier, happier times, but I’ll cover that in a future post.
(LittleThingsDoMatter) Have you ever noticed how happy people tend to be more healthy? How difficult do you think it is living a life of joy? I spend a bit of time on a regular basis just watching people – either by themselves – or interacting with others. My favorite group is kids. If not labeled as ADHD and put on drugs, most kids are energetic, full of questions, and always on the move. They have places to go, things to discover. And when there’s music playing, every part of their body gets into it.
We can be like them. Granted we all have responsibilities, but it is so very important to take a little bit of time for you. A few things I enjoy doing is to dust off my imagination and study the clouds – seeing through the eyes of a child. There are some really incredible shapes up there. Sometimes I imagine being a bird and flying above all the problems and issues that need to be resolved on a daily basis. Imagine being a branch on a tree that helps to support a birds nest. The wonders of nature are absolutely incredible.
There are so many things around us that we don’t see as we go through our busy days always rushing. Living a life of joy is simple. Focus on the beauty around you and the positive energy will flow. You’ll find yourself smiling more, and little things that bothered you won’t bother you anymore.
When was the last time you saw a rainbow? When was the last time you danced like no one was watching? When was the last time … ?
(LittleThingsDoMatter) I think we’re all aware of the damage stress can do to the body, but it can also do some serious damage to relationships. Are you stressing about money? Have you tightened the belt, but know a few hundred dollars would make a difference? I’ve heard stories about people only needing a few hundred dollars a month and it would have saved their home. A few hundred dollars would have stopped filing for bankruptcy. Stressing about money is probably one of the main reasons people get sick and relationships break up. Would a few hundred dollars make a difference for you?
Have you thought about owning your own home-based business – something you can do at home using the internet? Would any of the following benefits (and there are others) be something you may be looking for?
(LittleThingsDoMatter) Have you ever tried massage to relieve some of the stress in your life? Let’s pamper ourselves a bit: young, not-so-young, girls, boys, men and women. Life’s daily stresses take a toll on all of us – regardless of age or gender.
Have you had a hair or scalp massage? Aaah…wonderful!
Starting at the top for those of us who still have hair or haven’t shaved it off, there are wonderful non-toxic hair products to use so while you’re pampering yourself – or someone else is treating you as the special person you are – you can truly just sit back, relax, and enjoy.
I spoke a couple of posts ago on great ‘feel good’ products for babies, but what about the rest of us? The Massage Oilis great for everyone. When was the last time you were treated to great back rub or shoulder massage?
The main thing is to use things that are healthy for you – that don’t contain chemicals. We get more than enough as it is just breathing – why add to that?
Start by reading labels and check for both ingredients and warnings. If you see, “call the Poison Control Center” that means there’s something in it that can cause some serious harm. Skull & Crossbones? Not something to have anywhere near little ones. It shouldn’t be anywhere near you either. There are safe alternatives.
Sign up for my newletter to receive my Toxin Checklists on both Household Cleaners and Personal Care Products. You’ll learn more about the unnecessary harms certain products can cause. Some are products I used in the past, and some may be products you are using now.
(LittleThingsDoMatter) Our kids are sensitive to the point where some have already committed suicide and the culprit is a bully. The first time I read about this I thought: How can this be? Why is it happening? I thought back to when I was a kid and remembered getting teased constantly for one reason or another. My kids were teased, my grandkids are going through it now. What can be done for kids to show compassion for one another – for them to treat others as they want to be treated? Of course, I went to a Catholic school where we had prayer and learned that ‘someone’ could see us no matter what we did or where we were. I still believe that.
Read Jared’s Story.We need to take more time for our kids and really listen to them. Schools don’t need ‘gun control’. They need ‘drug control’. Parents and teachers need to understand that just learning what’s in books isn’t going to keep our kids – our future – alive. Social skills and interraction with others need to be part of the education process – both at home and school.
Every single one of us – no matter what age – needs to feel and know we are loved. That someone truly cares about us. We have to open our ears and hearts and listen. That includes the bullies. What is it they need that they aren’t getting – that they feel they must hurt someone else?
If your child starts acting different – maybe grades are going down, or their interest in sports, maybe the way they dress – these could be your first few signs of depression. It could be changing hormones depending on their age, but what if it isn’t?
Maybe we can get at least five quiet minutes back in the schools for the kids to prepare not only their minds for learning but their hearts for listening.
Much more information on depression, bullies, and suicide is available on Google.
(LittleThingsDoMatter) “Ouch, that hurts!” “It was a really tough day at the office.” “Will I ever get everything done?” “We’ll run out of money before we run out of month.” These statements and many more like them can come from anyone at any age almost everyday and sometimes more than once. Every one of them are full of stress for each person and can cause even more for the people who love them.
Have you put together a natural care health center of your own? Most of us have a “medicine cabinet”. This one is for the ‘boo-boos’ you can’t see but can cause a lot of health issues with your body, mind, and behavior if left untreated. Much of the following is available free of charge – well, except for the time they take – for anyone:
stop and take a few slow, deep breaths;
go for a walk; and if it’s in a light spring rain – so much the better (and don’t use an umbrella);
stand in place and do a few slow stretches;
go out and toss a ball or frisbee w/your kids or spouse (doesn’t matter if you can’t catch);
I also keep some happy tabs and anti-stress in my own natural care health center because there are times when the body really does need help to cope or you really don’t have the time;
Did you know that worrying / frowning causes wrinkles? I’m personally fighting that process – aging, too – and will talk about anti-aging in a future post. It’s an amazing subject!